#LIFELESSONS'

I'm learning. I'm slowly learning what it means to be human, what it means to be growing.
 In life, you can't skip chapters because it doesn't work that way. You have to read and go through every line, meet every character and see what the next chapter brings in for you because that's how you grow. It can be uncomfortable, messy and full of emotions you weren't expecting to feel any sooner but you have to let it pass. Because every experience will eventually lead you to where you are supposed to be. So the next time you feel confused or lost on your way; don't be so hard on yourself because you don't necessarily have to have an answer to every situation or feeling, just trust yourself that you will figure it all out and that everything will work out exactly the way it's supposed to be. So, just live through everything that ever comes your way; allow yourself to grow through it. Curate every aspect of your journey as much as you can, because one day you will realize- happiness was always about embracing the person you were becoming throughout the journey; and learning how to live with yourself above all. And at the end, you will see that you're still learning as there's always room for you to grow. Because life, would be so boring if you'd done it all, already right? 

HAVE A START!

Be it today or tomorrow , you have got to start. 

It's time to start working on that life you've always dreamed of. Nothing comes handy, you have got to make a move; be it today or tomorrow. So stop saying you will do it "some day", and just start doing it. Don't settle for the "one day" thing, because that might never happen. Just take a step ahead from wherever you are at right now, and you will get your directions on the way. At some point of time, you have to take a step and make a move anyway; so why not today? 

Today's a good day to start. Even if it means you taking baby steps, just do it. Because you have got to make the things you plan inside your head happen. And that's how you have to do it. A step ahead is always a step closer to what you wish to be. So, just put the fear of failure aside, because  if you don't start you will never know how far you can actually go. Remember, the feeling of regret is more terrifying  than the fear of failure.  

-have a start, today! 

FAll FOR FRIENDSHIP'S

"Falling in love is fine, but have you ever fallen in friendship" ?

I just came across these words and it struck me for real, like how love has always been so overrated and friendships may have been left underrated or atleast most of the times. I mean, yeah falling in love is like great; it's a totally different feeling. Your heart, your mind and everything else just get's into a different zone and even you start having those butterflies in your stomach or atleast that's what they say! I assume most of you must have fallen in love atleast once at some point of your life right? Or perhaps, for some of you maybe twice, thrice? 
But have you ever fallen in friendships? Or like just ever put a thought on that? Well that's the real thing, it's actually the most beautiful thing to fall for. But people are so fascinated with the idea of falling in love and the feels coming ahead of it, that they usually leave friendships unnoticed. I mean how truly beautiful and blessed friendships are, like you just know this other person is your best friend, your favourite human being,  someone who would be there through thick and thin; someone that you can always be sure of. 

Do you remember the first time you met each other; your paths crossed ? Or the time you were waiting for the end of the day to tell them just how your day was? Because you know, no matter how bad the day was you will feel better the moment they reach out to you. Remember how you waited for them to call? And they did. How they just instantly gets everything that's been running in your mind? Like from sharing the first awkward secrets, to the comfortable silences and the never ending conversations; from annoying each other to finding solace in each others words, from calling up and laughing together to calling up just to cry your heart out. They are the one's who accepts you for who you are, and helps you grow in true sense. These are people who will build the bridges for you to reach to the other side, who will come to your aid when you have a flat tire or just a stomach upset, who will help themselves in your kitchen without your permission as if it's like their home. But most of us are so obsessed with love, that we often let our friends down unknowingly. So, if you have a person who fits in these feels and who is a synonym for constant, family and loyalty then just thank them for just being there and making your life better in ways they will never know or just hug them tight enough the next time you meet. 
Also, "stop moulding your idea of romance into a soulmate because a friend can be a soulmate too. Maybe, a better one"

JUDGE- MENTS?

JUDGEMENTS, the easy and convenient way out for people. You don't like someone? You have something against someone? Or maybe you're just jobless? Then you have something you can do, that too very effortlessly. You know what it is right? Cm'on, the easiest thing people do to kill their time or sometimes just out of their shallow personalities.  Judging! Yes, judging other people, passing on judgements. That's the most convenient thing to do, for some people. Eh, to be precise for shallow people.

Feeling strange, yet? Well don't be. I know it's sad but it's true right? Judgements are the only thing that people pass on so easily. Like it's something worth sharing. But what they don't understand is who on earth gave them even the slightest of rights to judge someone else for their doings? Like, seriously who? The question is who are you to judge the life, or the choices someone else lives by? Some people  might not be perfect, and they might actually not live to be. So who are you to judge anyway? Also, before pointing fingers on others do they even make sure that their hands are clean?
Well I'm sure, they don't. Because that's not an easy thing to do but passing judgements certainly is. Judgements and criticism, they always come from a place of fear. Those who judge they have something that they fear, they just use it as a shield.

So if you're being judged, that's fine. Let them judge you or criticize you for who they think you're are. Not everyone anyway deserves to unveil the real you. Let them misunderstand, gossip about you. Let them do it all, say whatever they want. Their opinions are not your problem to solve, or not even something to pay attention to. So no matter what never doubt the beauty of your truth, the essence of your true self. Just keep shining like you do come what may!

NOTE TO SELF 💕

Sometimes, you are all that you need. No one or nothing else can make you see what you can to your own selves. You need to remind yourself of certain things, maybe a pep talk?  So, here's a note to your

                    

                        Future Self

It is important to know who you are, and what you stand for. This life that you have, is for you to live. You are to determine what to do with it and how, because you're the master of your fate. You're the one sailing the ship! There is no one who can tell you who you are, and who you should be, because you have to decide for yourself. Afterall, it's your journey to walk. Your people can only be your strength or walk along you, but not for you. And while you're on the journey, make your own choices; choose your own directions and take your steps when you feel you're ready and not when the world says you should.

    Be a different you, than you already are but not the one you see everyone else growing into. Mold yourself to be better, than who you were yesterday but not in the same mold every else uses to grow. And never let the changes to be about someone else, be a better you for yourself. You don't necessarily have to be better than someone or anyone. And if life gets difficult, (as it will be) allow yourself to pass all the thoughts, and not crumble upon them. Remind yourself that you've been here before and you can walk out of it but there's no rush as to when, you thrive at your own pace. 

Take chances, take risks and everything else that you need, to see the goals you have today but in a far better way.

Remember, this is your world; shape it before someone else does!

WALK AWAY!

Sometimes, you have to walk away. Not because that's the only choice you have but because you deserve another path. You have to sit for a while, and look around you; at the things you're giving your everything into and realize that even though you could stay a little longer, and give the last of everything you have just to make it up to their stay, you could also make the bold choice to take whatever you've by the end to a space that truly embraces you, for being you.

 It might be the hardest decision to make, but who said life's gonna come easy? So you have to make it anyway, even it leads you to a path unknown. Because there are times in life when the whole of you, deserves walking away from the space you're in right now. 

The world may try, to hold you and root you where are you and make their opinions of you for trying to walk away, as that is far easier than anything else. But don't be afraid, your true people will find you right where you have made your choices to be.

So, just walk away and lay down your needs to understand why  things happen the way they do and when is it your time to walk away from the things that demands a downhearted you! 

IT'S TOUGH, BUT IT'S ALRIGHT!

"Nothing terrifies me more than the thought of speaking my heart aloud for another soul to hear"

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The truth is we all are in someways afraid that once we open up, speak it out loud for someone to hear we will fall apart just like a flower does and before we even realize we will come across the state of bizzare. You feel, that you will find yourself unable to stop and even before you start to do something about it you will watch yourself be in pieces on the floor. 

     But that's not how it actually is, you need to see the other side of falling apart. Don't be afraid to fall apart, it's okay. It's tough, but it's alright. 

Never let yourself be terrified of speaking your thoughts or heart aloud, you need to do this. They say, pain demands to be felt. But what you need to know is that pain also demands to be freed out. Your feelings and thoughts are not just to be pushed aside, they seek to be attended, to be heard. I know, it's tough. Letting your thoughts out to someone, transforming your feelings and everything; it's real hard. But do it, even if you feel that you're falling apart,  because actually you're not. You're just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be bold and beautiful!