"Just Stay Positive"; Genuine Optimism or Toxic Positivity?

 How often do you get to hear someone say "just stay positive" "be happy" and bla bla bla. Quite often right? Well, that's because that's the only response people have towards anything upsetting. But it's time we realize that being happy or staying positive all the time is humanly not possible. You can not stay happy all the time right, and how can you when there's so many emotions to feel, so many things to deal with. 

To be happy, you need to accept all your emotions, even the petty dark ones. So, it is always okay to sulk for a while. Take all the time you need to feel better (don't take forever tho, life's not that long). Accept all your emotions, embrace your feelings, and let it all out. Do not try to run away from them, because the harder you resist the longer they persist. 

So, the next time you see someone not doing so good, stop asking them to be happy, move on or forget whatever they are feeling. Because now that's not how the human heart works, does it? Like everything else in the world, our thoughts and feelings need to be refined too, and we need time for that. So, allow them the time to be okay. 

And remember, not everyone needs advice. Sometimes, people just need someone to lend them an ear, to listen to their troubles. It's not always the advice that works, sometimes just being there does the magic. Because we are all tired already, not from how the world works, but from something pretty deep, something inherently present under our skins. 

We are all so worn down by the world, that nothing someone says can make us feel alright. But to know that despite everything that is wrong with the world, someone out there is always looking out for us, gives comfort. So, simply be there for the ones you care about. It doesn't matter if you can or can not make them feel alright, what matters is that you are willing to do so. 

LIFE SUCKS ALREADY, SO WHY MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT?