"Just Stay Positive"; Genuine Optimism or Toxic Positivity?

 How often do you get to hear someone say "just stay positive" "be happy" and bla bla bla. Quite often right? Well, that's because that's the only response people have towards anything upsetting. But it's time we realize that being happy or staying positive all the time is humanly not possible. You can not stay happy all the time right, and how can you when there's so many emotions to feel, so many things to deal with. 

To be happy, you need to accept all your emotions, even the petty dark ones. So, it is always okay to sulk for a while. Take all the time you need to feel better (don't take forever tho, life's not that long). Accept all your emotions, embrace your feelings, and let it all out. Do not try to run away from them, because the harder you resist the longer they persist. 

So, the next time you see someone not doing so good, stop asking them to be happy, move on or forget whatever they are feeling. Because now that's not how the human heart works, does it? Like everything else in the world, our thoughts and feelings need to be refined too, and we need time for that. So, allow them the time to be okay. 

And remember, not everyone needs advice. Sometimes, people just need someone to lend them an ear, to listen to their troubles. It's not always the advice that works, sometimes just being there does the magic. Because we are all tired already, not from how the world works, but from something pretty deep, something inherently present under our skins. 

We are all so worn down by the world, that nothing someone says can make us feel alright. But to know that despite everything that is wrong with the world, someone out there is always looking out for us, gives comfort. So, simply be there for the ones you care about. It doesn't matter if you can or can not make them feel alright, what matters is that you are willing to do so. 

LIFE SUCKS ALREADY, SO WHY MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT? 

Fear Of The Unknown

 Fear seems like the most powerful feeling humanly possible to feel. But is it truly the case? 

Fear of the unknown & fear of failure is the two most powerful feelings we let ourselves feel. Or at least that's what we think. Because we constantly find ourselves thinking what will our tomorrow look like, isn't it? At the back of our minds, there is always this little annoying voice saying things we would not like to hear anyone speak. But the voice doesn't stop there, does it? 

We can hear him say things like "what if you aren't doing what you thought of". There's always this what if that keeps hanging by. And that's what scares us the most. This very much is the feeling of failing, and the fear comes in handy. It is the fear of failure that holds us back the most. Sadly, we often miss seeing it coming. This feeling that we get convinces us to stay in the misery of our current situation because the present is what we are familiar with. And maybe that's what we call a comfort zone. A space we are very familiar with that doesn't lead us to feel anything different than what we usually do. But tomorrow, it's different, and always going to be. Tomorrow brings uncertainty to our life, it can either be a bed of roses or a pack of thorns, who knows. It is a place still unknown. 

And there's nothing more than the unknown that we are afraid of. We fear letting something new come by, we fear failing at it so much that we prefer being in the misery of a present state rather than stepping out of it and embracing what's new. We have a hard time letting go of what we are comfortable with, even if it means suffering more each day. We become so used to this feeling that we can't see anything past that. We can't think straight, can we?

But dear, is this how things should always be? I know it's scary, maybe more than anyone will ever know. Thinking of a tomorrow where you might be failing in something you always wanted, something into which you have invested all you had would of course be scary. It would be devastating to imagine yourself not being able to make it. And so we choose not to try at all because that seems safer. Anything other than failing and being more miserable than today seems safer. And we humans, we always keep trying to find an easy way out into everything. 

The very idea of the unknown causes enough terror in us that we choose even to live with the regrets of not trying rather than actually giving it a push. But the truth is, you fail when you don't try & not when you do. Because when you try, even if it doesn't turn out as you wanted it to, you will still come out of it with something, a chance to do better the next time, an experience to learn from. But when you don't try at all, you have nothing by the end. Not even the feeling of conquering your fear, because that's what we call an achievement. And you are gonna get it when you take a chance. 

Believe me, when I say this, tomorrow is hell scary and so is a failure but living with not knowing what could have happened if you tried, is the scariest of all. So, the next time you think 'what if If fail', just pause & think again, 'but what if I don't'. 

Remember, it's always just the matter of taking the leap of faith. 

                                                                                                 -K

SUMMER BREEZE

I find myself drawn to the abiding summer breeze,

Caressing my body, like a flower

blooming out in the wilds.

Oh, the sweet smell 

of these summer nights,

awakens my mind and soul,

to the alluring delights.

And as the night passes by,

with winds gusting through my tangled soul, 

you will find me again somewhere, 

seeking the balmy breeze.

                             -summer breeze! 

Won't you come out ?

 

We shall take a walk,

down the road and

wander around,

see the lights falling out

cause these cities ain't 

no sleeping anymore,

Baby, won't you come out ?

I will be waiting by the shore.

We could dance and roam,

maybe seal this night 

as our own, and kill

a little time, swaying around

watch the night fall out,

and let our woes sink in.

So, won't you come around ?

And paint the town red 

For you can sleep,

again, when you're dead !

P.S Got a poetry prompt from the song "where the lonely ones roam"

TEARS IN YOUR EYES

You walk through the lane,
silently sliding the pain away
sighing, in disbelief of the lies,
that comes running your way.
I know, it feels heavy in the,
heart to carry it all along;
seeking for answers,
you might never come across.
Trying to look up, for the
bright side, amidst these
hazy dark clouds hovering above
pulling you, towards the feeling
of loss.

You put on a smile, so deep
leaving behind every scar you had,
owning up to the world's wrath
and walking through the adrous path
I know, it feels heavy in the heart
to keep going this way
For the scars, hiding beneath
your unfolded sleeves, they stay.

Oh dear, it's a war 
everyday, that you fight
hiding in the lap of moonlight,
waiting for the next day to show
where the pain, residing in your
hearts, somehow seems a little low
And then you realize, that it's okay
when on some nights, you dance
with tears in your eyes!

HOPE!

I hope!

This is your life. You get to choose who you want to be, and what you want to learn. But I hope you learn how to be proud of the person you're becoming; and of where you are at this moment or what you've achieved so far- big or small. I hope you find the courage to chase what sets your soul on fire, and be happy on your own terms even if it isn't what others might approve of. 

I hope you learn to love yourself just the way you hope others did, and I hope, that love brings out the best in you and in whatever you do. I hope you find moments that make you feel alive, and teach you to truly live life. I hope you find people who sees the best version of you with all your flaws ahead and still decides to stick by. I hope you learn not to hold back and to let go of the things that aren't meant to. And I hope you learn to forgive yourself for what you did when you had to. 

But most of all, I hope you find your true self out there amidst the chaos of the world. There's a lot to feel out there, and I hope you feel it all. Because there's absolutely nothing more beautiful than embracing the journey you're on. It's a different feeling altogether!

#LIFELESSONS'

I'm learning. I'm slowly learning what it means to be human, what it means to be growing.
 In life, you can't skip chapters because it doesn't work that way. You have to read and go through every line, meet every character and see what the next chapter brings in for you because that's how you grow. It can be uncomfortable, messy and full of emotions you weren't expecting to feel any sooner but you have to let it pass. Because every experience will eventually lead you to where you are supposed to be. So the next time you feel confused or lost on your way; don't be so hard on yourself because you don't necessarily have to have an answer to every situation or feeling, just trust yourself that you will figure it all out and that everything will work out exactly the way it's supposed to be. So, just live through everything that ever comes your way; allow yourself to grow through it. Curate every aspect of your journey as much as you can, because one day you will realize- happiness was always about embracing the person you were becoming throughout the journey; and learning how to live with yourself above all. And at the end, you will see that you're still learning as there's always room for you to grow. Because life, would be so boring if you'd done it all, already right? 

HAVE A START!

Be it today or tomorrow , you have got to start. 

It's time to start working on that life you've always dreamed of. Nothing comes handy, you have got to make a move; be it today or tomorrow. So stop saying you will do it "some day", and just start doing it. Don't settle for the "one day" thing, because that might never happen. Just take a step ahead from wherever you are at right now, and you will get your directions on the way. At some point of time, you have to take a step and make a move anyway; so why not today? 

Today's a good day to start. Even if it means you taking baby steps, just do it. Because you have got to make the things you plan inside your head happen. And that's how you have to do it. A step ahead is always a step closer to what you wish to be. So, just put the fear of failure aside, because  if you don't start you will never know how far you can actually go. Remember, the feeling of regret is more terrifying  than the fear of failure.  

-have a start, today! 

FAll FOR FRIENDSHIP'S

"Falling in love is fine, but have you ever fallen in friendship" ?

I just came across these words and it struck me for real, like how love has always been so overrated and friendships may have been left underrated or atleast most of the times. I mean, yeah falling in love is like great; it's a totally different feeling. Your heart, your mind and everything else just get's into a different zone and even you start having those butterflies in your stomach or atleast that's what they say! I assume most of you must have fallen in love atleast once at some point of your life right? Or perhaps, for some of you maybe twice, thrice? 
But have you ever fallen in friendships? Or like just ever put a thought on that? Well that's the real thing, it's actually the most beautiful thing to fall for. But people are so fascinated with the idea of falling in love and the feels coming ahead of it, that they usually leave friendships unnoticed. I mean how truly beautiful and blessed friendships are, like you just know this other person is your best friend, your favourite human being,  someone who would be there through thick and thin; someone that you can always be sure of. 

Do you remember the first time you met each other; your paths crossed ? Or the time you were waiting for the end of the day to tell them just how your day was? Because you know, no matter how bad the day was you will feel better the moment they reach out to you. Remember how you waited for them to call? And they did. How they just instantly gets everything that's been running in your mind? Like from sharing the first awkward secrets, to the comfortable silences and the never ending conversations; from annoying each other to finding solace in each others words, from calling up and laughing together to calling up just to cry your heart out. They are the one's who accepts you for who you are, and helps you grow in true sense. These are people who will build the bridges for you to reach to the other side, who will come to your aid when you have a flat tire or just a stomach upset, who will help themselves in your kitchen without your permission as if it's like their home. But most of us are so obsessed with love, that we often let our friends down unknowingly. So, if you have a person who fits in these feels and who is a synonym for constant, family and loyalty then just thank them for just being there and making your life better in ways they will never know or just hug them tight enough the next time you meet. 
Also, "stop moulding your idea of romance into a soulmate because a friend can be a soulmate too. Maybe, a better one"

JUDGE- MENTS?

JUDGEMENTS, the easy and convenient way out for people. You don't like someone? You have something against someone? Or maybe you're just jobless? Then you have something you can do, that too very effortlessly. You know what it is right? Cm'on, the easiest thing people do to kill their time or sometimes just out of their shallow personalities.  Judging! Yes, judging other people, passing on judgements. That's the most convenient thing to do, for some people. Eh, to be precise for shallow people.

Feeling strange, yet? Well don't be. I know it's sad but it's true right? Judgements are the only thing that people pass on so easily. Like it's something worth sharing. But what they don't understand is who on earth gave them even the slightest of rights to judge someone else for their doings? Like, seriously who? The question is who are you to judge the life, or the choices someone else lives by? Some people  might not be perfect, and they might actually not live to be. So who are you to judge anyway? Also, before pointing fingers on others do they even make sure that their hands are clean?
Well I'm sure, they don't. Because that's not an easy thing to do but passing judgements certainly is. Judgements and criticism, they always come from a place of fear. Those who judge they have something that they fear, they just use it as a shield.

So if you're being judged, that's fine. Let them judge you or criticize you for who they think you're are. Not everyone anyway deserves to unveil the real you. Let them misunderstand, gossip about you. Let them do it all, say whatever they want. Their opinions are not your problem to solve, or not even something to pay attention to. So no matter what never doubt the beauty of your truth, the essence of your true self. Just keep shining like you do come what may!

NOTE TO SELF 💕

Sometimes, you are all that you need. No one or nothing else can make you see what you can to your own selves. You need to remind yourself of certain things, maybe a pep talk?  So, here's a note to your

                    

                        Future Self

It is important to know who you are, and what you stand for. This life that you have, is for you to live. You are to determine what to do with it and how, because you're the master of your fate. You're the one sailing the ship! There is no one who can tell you who you are, and who you should be, because you have to decide for yourself. Afterall, it's your journey to walk. Your people can only be your strength or walk along you, but not for you. And while you're on the journey, make your own choices; choose your own directions and take your steps when you feel you're ready and not when the world says you should.

    Be a different you, than you already are but not the one you see everyone else growing into. Mold yourself to be better, than who you were yesterday but not in the same mold every else uses to grow. And never let the changes to be about someone else, be a better you for yourself. You don't necessarily have to be better than someone or anyone. And if life gets difficult, (as it will be) allow yourself to pass all the thoughts, and not crumble upon them. Remind yourself that you've been here before and you can walk out of it but there's no rush as to when, you thrive at your own pace. 

Take chances, take risks and everything else that you need, to see the goals you have today but in a far better way.

Remember, this is your world; shape it before someone else does!

WALK AWAY!

Sometimes, you have to walk away. Not because that's the only choice you have but because you deserve another path. You have to sit for a while, and look around you; at the things you're giving your everything into and realize that even though you could stay a little longer, and give the last of everything you have just to make it up to their stay, you could also make the bold choice to take whatever you've by the end to a space that truly embraces you, for being you.

 It might be the hardest decision to make, but who said life's gonna come easy? So you have to make it anyway, even it leads you to a path unknown. Because there are times in life when the whole of you, deserves walking away from the space you're in right now. 

The world may try, to hold you and root you where are you and make their opinions of you for trying to walk away, as that is far easier than anything else. But don't be afraid, your true people will find you right where you have made your choices to be.

So, just walk away and lay down your needs to understand why  things happen the way they do and when is it your time to walk away from the things that demands a downhearted you! 

IT'S TOUGH, BUT IT'S ALRIGHT!

"Nothing terrifies me more than the thought of speaking my heart aloud for another soul to hear"

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The truth is we all are in someways afraid that once we open up, speak it out loud for someone to hear we will fall apart just like a flower does and before we even realize we will come across the state of bizzare. You feel, that you will find yourself unable to stop and even before you start to do something about it you will watch yourself be in pieces on the floor. 

     But that's not how it actually is, you need to see the other side of falling apart. Don't be afraid to fall apart, it's okay. It's tough, but it's alright. 

Never let yourself be terrified of speaking your thoughts or heart aloud, you need to do this. They say, pain demands to be felt. But what you need to know is that pain also demands to be freed out. Your feelings and thoughts are not just to be pushed aside, they seek to be attended, to be heard. I know, it's tough. Letting your thoughts out to someone, transforming your feelings and everything; it's real hard. But do it, even if you feel that you're falling apart,  because actually you're not. You're just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be bold and beautiful!

 
   Underneath the twinkling
    night sky,
    Infatuated by its glow
    time feels like,
    it is slow
    As, the pain's quite
    slipping away 
    There's solace in
    the burning heart
    this day!

   With shine of the
    eyes, rising again
    on its way
    Underneath this sky,
    breathing
    She waits for the
    Day-break to come by!

LITTLE THINGS

It's like our lives are past and future, someway or the other we are always dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Where's our present then?
We are all trying to make our future better, but how often do we try to make the present worthy?

We are all living in cages, with the door wide open. All we need to do is walk out of it, atleast take a step everyday. Live in the present, it's a thin line just walk on it. Walk on it with grace, live for the little things that lies in your way. Walk a mile with someone you feel free, share a coffee, share a moment, make things beautiful or accept it the way it is. For this is what it seems to be alive.

DUSK TILL DAWN

SOMETHING WAS CALLING OUT TO HER..
she had no idea what it could be or what it could possibly want from her. She tried hard to let it go but apparently her dreams were filled with demons from the past. Each morning she woke up with a feeling of going deep into the abyss.

so this is my poetry book "DUSK TILL DAWN". A journey of a girl going deep down into the darkness yet somehow fighting her way out of it.

IT'S YOU

Your life is all about you, its always your efforts that matters. Always your dreams that becomes realities, no one else has any role to play in it not even destiny. For, destiny is just the situations and circumstances that you come across but how you soar above it ain't destiny. How to come out of any situation, is always in your hand. The outcome of anything is always in your hand, all you need is to believe in yourself even when no one does or even when you feel like its definitely the end. Remember, every end can be a beginning of something alluring. Never search for a savior, for you are you own. Keep in mind even the strangled souls will fly if the bells of hopes are high. So keep hoping, till  you can till you wish you.
You don't need a sorting hat to tell you where you belong, you only need to believe in the beauty of your dreams.

ONE DAY

          "We will one day disappear
            but let's swing like feathers
           let's feel and face the waves,
            surf through them.
           Before we merge into the ground
           once and for all"

SOMEONE, SOMEDAY

Someone will come along. Someone who will understand whats its like to be you, yet will make you fall in love with the little things that matters.
Someone who will be all ears and know, beneath your mellow eyes and ruthless mask you wear there's something else. Someone who will look fear in the face, just to make you feel a little more secure and comfortable. Someone who will hold you in a way that you will always feel free within.
Just wait!
Someone will come along, someday.

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

Are you looking for the love, that will
sweep you off the feet?
But do you know what happens when
you actually get swept off your feet?
  You fall!
Because that's not love, that's just a storm.
Known its love, when it holds you firm.